Guidelines

Memories of what has been are as important to our health as hopes of what will be. Our memories establish our sense of personal identity. Lose your memory, and you lose your sense of self. This is what happens with amnesiacs: in losing their memory, they forfeit their grasp of who they are, where they […]

There are things you can do to gain control over worry. I recently heard a psychiatrist detailing what we can do to work through the anxiety and worry so prevalent these last few months. He offered a threefold strategy. He said, 1) Never worry alone, 2) Get the facts, and 3) Make a plan. Never […]

To hear does not necessarily mean to understand. To gain understanding you have to recognize and distinguish between the speaker’s similarities to and differences from, yourself. To do so you must apply two principles essential for understanding: the principles of similarity and of differentness. The principle of similarity states that nothing in the other is […]

Success is when you can go from one failure to another without losing your enthusiasm. Someone said that in a forgettable movie I recently watched. That really spoke to me. What if personal success were less about results and more about attitude, less about achievement and more about perseverance through failure? That might render more […]

Talking about something helps. Just talking about it may not seem to have much power to change our life situation for the better, but words are all we have. Do not underrate or underestimate the positive effect of simply talking through something with a trusted other. My life can be viewed as a series of […]

Loving and controlling are at odds with each other. In fact, love is a letting go, not a controlling of loved ones. We seek to control more from fear and frustration than love. Love and fear do not work well together, either; they cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Love demands a […]